Sharon Lynn is the author of the Maddie McGuire cozy mysteries. You can find out more about her on her website, www.sharonlwrites.com, or by clicking here, read her last post here, and buy her books here.
Okay, here goes: I confess that I am horrible at blogging. I read my fellow authors’ posts and find them fascinating, engaging, and often quite helpful.
My posts? Well, I stopped doing them, which I’ll get to later.
Part of the problem is that blogs should build a personal connection to the readers and tell them something new they don’t know about me. The thing is, I’m an introvert who does not take emotions into consideration when making decisions. Emotions are for home. Don’t get me wrong, I’m super friendly. Some would even describe me as fun to hang out with. But I’m not someone who shares. Because of that, I am a very good listener, which is not a skill that translates to blogging.
In my delightful local bookstore, Bright Side Bookshop, I discovered a lovely deck of cards called “Achieve Your Bliss.” Each card had a task for you to do to make yourself and the world better. Things like, “Every morning, think of something you are grateful for.” Great advice! The next one advised, “Ask a stranger how they are and really listen to the answer.”
That’s when I put the little deck down. Why? Because the answer to that question is personal, and I would never be so presumptuous as to expect an in-depth response. And I wouldn’t offer one, either.
You can see where I’m going with this.
When I’m in a Ride Share car, going to the airport, and the driver asks my destination, I never say the city. “Southern California,” will suffice. I know they’re being friendly, that they aren’t stalking me or being nosy, but the answer to my travel destination is personal, and they don’t need to know what it is.
So blogging is difficult. I can be generic and bland till the cows come home. But personal? I cringe at the thought.
I took a course from the amazing Jane Friedman on author marketing.
Everyone waxed poetic about blogs. I cried a little inside. Then, she offered the best advice I’ve ever gotten. “If you hate doing something, don’t do it.”
The heavens opened, and angels sang! I stopped blogging. Immediately.
And I moved my newsletter to 4 times a year instead of monthly. My newsletter signup
I now blog twice a year with the Blackbird Writers. And my posts are the weakest of our lot. As an example, read GP Gottlieb’s latest post.
Thrilling! Personal! And don’t even get me started on the wealth of useful advice from Christine DeSmet (the two most recent posts as I write this). Thought-provoking! The same can be said for all our mystery authors, which is one reason I am honored to be in this flock. I want my posts to be better, but whenever I get the Official Nudge to start writing, I panic.
Two personal things I would like to share are that I have a border collie/mini-Aussie mix who is awesome (pictured). The other is my love of baking. On the Blackbird Writer’s Facebook page this week, I’ll be posting some of my favorite recipes.
If you want to know how I am, let’s have lunch and get to know each other. It’ll be fun!